How often do you catch yourself saying things like ‘I hate my job’, ‘I’m unhappy with my weight’ or ‘My relationship is making me miserable.’? Almost everyone has some aspect of their life that they wish was different.
Some things require simple changes which are so easy to achieve, they barely have to be thought through, for example, looking at those silvery threads in your hair, that sure sign and glaring reminder of your ageing. This kind of thing is easily changed if you feel the need, by getting your hair dyed or indeed buying a box of dye and doing a DIY job.
Other things however, require some planning and evaluating your situation, then making changes that take some serious work. Some examples of this might include:
- Losing weight
- Getting a new job
- Leaving an unhealthy, unhappy relationship
- changing direction and re-training for a new career
There are of course, many more examples that I have not covered, and without getting into too much depth about how to approach these individually, I would like to offer some general advice about reaching your goals.
The first thing to understand is that the excuses have to stop. As an adult you can no longer use your experiences as a child, to shape the way your life turns out. You and you alone have to be responsible for who you are. Yes, as a child, you may have been influenced by your family, friends, living situation etc. However, those things to do define you as a person.
Any realistic goal is achievable, stop making excuses as to why you cant get there and stop blaming other people for standing in your way. You are the only person standing between you and the life you want.
Positive self-talk is so important. You need to be your own voice of encouragement. Nurture and love yourself, tell yourself you can achieve anything you put your mind to. The negative self-doubting part of your mind will try to tell you different, but it’s up to you which part of your mind wins this battle.
Take control, remember you’re the one in charge here. Your brain will do what you tell it to, so if you keep telling yourself that something is impossible, your subconscious takes this as an instruction.
You have to create your reality by visualising it, and working hard to bring it into existence. Shut down the self-doubt and change those self-limiting beliefs into positive statements of determination and encouragement. It takes work, but once you train your mind to think this way, you’ll find it gives you a new found confidence and zest for life.
What are you waiting for?
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